Every year I try to come up with extremely meaningful resolutions that I get really Gung-Ho about for a few weeks and then forget about. Instead, this year I want to come up with the things that I want to shift my lifestyle toward. I probably won’t completely achieve these by the end of 2012, but I think they’re worth actively moving toward. No more “I’m going to lose weight!”, none of that “I’m tots gonna wake up at 6am each morning to go for a run!”, or “I’m going to ONLY DRINK FRESH JUICE EVERY DAY” kind of thing, it never works for me. I want to try setting myself up for success this year, and that means recognizing that even long-term goals take longer than a year, and the best that we can hope for is active growth towards the things we want in our lives.
1. I want to learn how to love better. I found this article recently called “10 ways to love others” and I want to start implementing this in my life more naturally. More and more I find that it’s important to actively love and care for those people around me because it’s not disastrous or anything, but most people can be pretty negative, which, I think, is a result of all of the negativity in the world. The news and media only hype up negative things, our friends use things like twitter and facebook to complain on their statues. I’m only one person, but I want to move toward loving more.
2. I want to actively engage in the things that I believe in. I find myself engaged by things by Nutrition and health in younger generations, and the queer-rights movements. These are the things that I want to more actively be aware of changes of. I’m not saying the other things don’t matter — they do, but these are the things about which I am passionate.
3. Taking care of myself. I know this seems a bit silly, and I do take care of myself. I eat right, I exercise, I bathe myself. I want to, as Jonathan Safran Foer says, think myself into happiness. What I mean is, also taking better care of my mental health as well. I tend to be a workaholic and throw myself into projects and assignments, or worse, bake, when something is wrong or I’m not feeling one hundred percent mentally or emotionally, so I want to work toward doing things that will better me, instead of just push it away. They’re small things but if someone has said something that offended or hurt my feelings I want to, instead of ignoring how I feel and making 8 dozen cupcake, go for a walk, meditate, do some yoga, have a drink with someone that makes me laugh, even put on some fun make up. I know it seems silly, but I think to do any of these things I have to begin with me. Elie Wiesel says,
But where was I to start? The world is so vast, I shall start with the country I knew best, my own. But my country is so very large. I had better start with my town. But my town, too, is large. I had best start with my street. No, my home. No, my family. Never mind, I shall start with myself.
4. I’m writing this in a completely positive manner, but I want to work toward lowering my expectations of other people. I hold myself to a really high standard, and I’m not perfect, but I want to be, and I really need to work toward understanding that other people don’t work toward the same standard that I do. I want to learn to recognize the work and effort that each person I encounter is putting into getting out of bed each morning, experiencing life, and being a good human being. I found this article on Thought Catalog called “Things A Person Is Not,” and I want to keep adding to the list of what other people are not. They, just like me, are not perfect. People get lost when they’re coming to meet you somewhere, they spill pancake batter, they complain to you and sometimes insult you just because they’re angry at something else and are taking it out on you. I want to have the ability to understand this with more grace.
Ultimately, I think these pursuits will help me SUIT UP and become more awesome, because, as NPH says,